Dear Amy: I am beginning to think that I’m in violation of some unwritten social code with respect to gift giving.

Amy Dickinson
Amy Dickinson 

After a very acrimonious divorce, we experienced the typical “siding off” of our mutual acquaintances.

This is understandable, as divorce puts friends in awkward positions.

Anyway, I have continued to send gifts as children of “our” friends marry, despite not being an invited guest. These gifts are not being acknowledged.

I’m trying to figure out if I just hit a streak of ungrateful young people or if my giving is so grossly out of place that it is just being ignored. Any guidance is really appreciated.

Bewildered Giver

Dear Bewildered: All gifts should be acknowledged, even if the gift bewilders the recipient.